Reframing Unwanted EmotionsUnwanted emotions – such as anger, frustration, sadness – may adversely impact your ability to think clearly and respond intelligently.  To reverse this physiological effect, you can re-frame the memory of your past experience and shift out of the ‘victim’ mode and into one of personal power.

Recalling an unpleasant experience usually brings forward unwanted emotions.  When experiencing these emotions from the past, the body responds as if the experience is unfolding in the present moment.  Emotions such as anger, frustration and sadness trigger a chain of biological responses that serve to drain the body’s energy and deplete its immune system.   In this article, we discuss the three steps to re-frame the experience so you can shift out of the victim mode quickly and effectively as well as plug the associated energy drain.

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How Successful Entrepreneurs Skew the Odds in their Favour1. Acknowledge

The first step is to give yourself permission to be human – acknowledge that you are feeling unwanted emotions.  Stay with the feeling long enough to fully experience it and then decide the appropriate time to move forward to the next step.  Maintain the attitude that you will eventually emerge from this unwanted feeling – it helps the transition to the next step quicker.

give yourself permission to be human – acknowledge that you are feeling unwanted emotions.

 

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Breathe Deeply and Experience Positive Emotions

2. Breathe Deeply and Experience Renewing Emotions

The second step is to slow down the body’s emotional response.  You must slow down before turning the corner – so to speak. Take slow, deep breaths and begin to experience positive emotions.  Bringing forward renewing emotions will not only stop the body’s stress response and the resulting release of stress hormones, but it will entice the body to produce more DHEA – an anti-aging, rejuvenating hormone necessary to maintain a strong immune system.

 

Bringing forward renewing emotions will not only stop the body’s stress response and the resulting release of stress hormones, but it will entice the body to produce more DHEA – an anti-aging, rejuvenating hormone

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Baby indoors thinking3. Find the Silver Lining

German philosopher, Friedrich Nietzsche once stated “That which does not kill us, makes us stronger”.  Every unwanted emotion has its roots in an unpleasant experience; every unpleasant experience is an opportunity to develop personal mastery.  The third step in transforming unwanted emotions is to find the silver lining.  Ask yourself, what did I learn from this experience? sit with this question as you continue to practice step #2.  Once you realize the silver lining in the experience, then find it in your heart to appreciate the individual(s) that helped you develop your mastery.

every unpleasant experience is an opportunity to develop personal mastery

The third step is a powerful way to re-frame the original experience that otherwise would continue to replay in one’s mind giving rise to unwanted emotions.  Having found the silver lining and having acknowledged the role of the individual that triggered these unwanted emotions in the first place, you will never feel the same emotions when recalling the past.  As a matter of fact, when recalling these emotions, you will feel a sense of gratitude and accomplishment for having overcome a personal challenge and for developing personal mastery.  Simply put, you would have transformed your depleting emotional state into one of inner power.

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